Talk about sex

Sex should feel good – before, during, and afterwards. This means that if you want to have sex, you need to pay attention, listen and read other people’s signals.

If you are not sure what the other person wants, you must ask them to make sure that you are interpreting the situation correctly. Don’t guess. At worst, guessing can lead to you doing something against another person’s will that violates or hurts them. By doing this, you also commit a crime.

A good way to find out what someone feels is to talk to them. Ask them what they want and what they like. Another way is to watch and listen to their body language, facial expressions and tone of voice.

You are entitled to help and support

It is never your fault if you have been subjected to sexual abuse. You are always entitled to help and support to deal with your experiences. It often helps to talk about what happened, for example with a friend, a member of your family or someone else you trust. There are also several organisations you can contact if you want to talk to someone.

Our website has a list of organisations that can provide help and support (only in Swedish and English).

Doing something to another person that doesn’t feel right

To carry out a sexual act against another person’s will is always wrong.

If you think you might have carried out a sexual act against someone against their will, you can get help. You can talk about what happened and get help to change your behaviour. For example, you can call the hotline PrevenTell.

You can find more information on PrevenTell's webpage (only in Swedish and English).